I think this the funniest thing. Clerics all agree that it is good and honorable to beat your wife but they can’t agree when it is okay to do so. One says, “beat her when she won’t listen” and another “beat her when she has a habit of disobedience.” Now we have a cleric who says that the husband can only beat his wife if she says no to him concerning sex. Gee, what is a manly man of Allah to do?
Memri TV Project
Egyptian Cleric Sa’d Arafat
Al-Nas TV (Eygpt)
Februrary 4, 2010
Commentator: Would you believe that the European woman in our times yearns for a husband who would be like a guardian to her. I would like to provide the viewers with some statistics. 90 percent of British women do not want to marry a weak man, who sits down and cries the moment there is a problem.
They say: No, such a man looks more like a woman. We want a manly man. Wife beating is a serous accusation (leveled against Islam).
Let us examine this matter bit by bit.
Cleric Sa’d Arafat: Allah honored wives by instating the punishment of beatings.
Commentator: Honored them with beatings? How is this possible?
Cleric Sa’d Arafat: The Prophet Muhammad said: “Don’t beat her in the face, and do not maker her ugly.” See how she is honored. If the husband beats his wife, he must not beat her in the face. Even when he beats her, he must not curse her. This is incredible!
HE beats her in order to discipline her. In addition, there must not be more than ten beatings, and he must not break her bones, injure her, break her teeth, or poke her in the eye.
There is a beating etiquette. If he beats to discipline her, he must not raise his hand high. He must beat her from the chest level. All these things honor the woman. She is in need of disciplines.
How should the husband discipline her? Through admonishment. If she is not deterred, he should refuse to share the bed with her. If she is not repentant, he should beat her, but there are rules to the beating. If is forbidden to beat her in the face or make her ugly.
When you beat her, you must not curse her. Islam forbids this.
Commentator: Whth what should he beat her? With his bar hand? With a rod?
Cleric Sa’d Arafat: If he beats her, the beatings should not be hard, so that they do not leave a mark. He can beat her with a short rod. He must avoid beating her in the face or in places in the head where it hurts. The beatings should be on the body and should not come one right after the other.
These are all choices made during the process, but beatings are allowed only as a last resort. The honoring of the wife in Islam is also evident in the fact that the punishment of beating is permissible in one case only: when she refuses to sleep with him.
Commentator: When she refuses to sleep with him?
Cleric Sa’d Arafat: Yes, because where else could the husband go? He wants her, but she refuses. He should gegin with admonishment and threats,
Commentator: Allow me to repeat this, A man cannot beat his wife over food or drink.
Cleric Sa’d Arafat: Beating are permitted only in this case, which the husband cannot do without.